Disciplining a child is a crucial responsibility of any parent. Parents often gets worried about their children’s misbehaviors and tends to yell, shout, threaten or even beats the child to correct them. In spite of all that the child either remains the same or his/her behavior gets worse. This is when parents feel very helpless/ disappointed with their child and even give up on them. Let’s have a look at some of the tips that helps parents to discipline their children.
Give and take respect
Often parents take their children for granted where the children are not involved when something is planned in the family. Parents should not forget the fact that they are also individuals with ego even though they are small in size and age. They should never be discounted thinking they won’t understand anything. They are much sharper and grasps quickly than elders. Some common situations where your child throw tantrums and how to deal with it:
- If a guest is coming home prepare your child (give some background of visitors, make the child feel excited about their coming) will help him/her to mingle with them comfortably as well as takes away the fear or awkwardness meeting new people at home. The child will also respond appropriately with them as they feel that they already know them.
- Whenever you take your child’s belongings you should ask their permission. If you do so then you will have the authentic right to tell them they cannot take your phone or other property without asking you.
Model good behaviours
When you demonstrate acceptable behavious and accountability to your child then they will also respond to you in the same way. Some of the good behaviours parents can show them:
- Acknowledge the work of your child and thank them when they do things right. This will boost their self-esteem as well as they will also learn to express gratitude when someone does something good to them.
- Do not hesitate to say sorry to your child when you go wrong. This will help them also to apologies when they do make mistakes.
Instruct them what they ‘should do’ instead of telling them what they ‘should not’:
Human brain has a difficulty to process negative commands hence more you say not to do something their tendency to do them will rise. There are also instances were children disobey purposely as they have observed that when they do wrong, they are getting more attention from everyone around them.
Show a contrast in your attitude when children do right and wrong
Children enjoy when they are acknowledged, praised, when given attention etc., and at the same time feels bad when they don’t receive it. Use this as a strategy to make them do desirable behaviors. Ignore (don’t get angry) the child when they misbehave whereas express love and warmth when they do acceptable behaviours. After repeating the same for few instances, children will automatically learn that his/her parents cannot be pleased when he/ she does undesirable behaviours. Furthermore, make sure that you forgive your child when they apologies and come back to you.
Parents should avoid setting bad example to their children by yelling and beating
Yelling and beating will only make the parents tired but won’t give much result. Not just that it is misleading as the child will think that yelling / beating someone will help him/ her to achieve what they need. Thus, they beat up their peers to make them respond the way the child wants.
Use play/ story telling as a medium to teach children good behaviours
Instead of giving your child a lecture on acceptable behaviours convey the same using creative methods such as through play or by telling stories. Create two characters and explain what made one good and the other bad through which you can encourage some good behaviours in your children. Games helps to build a friendly bond with your child.
No child is a tough child, however the way we approach their mistakes/ misconduct makes a whole difference in molding their character. If right strategies are used to discipline your child from a very young age the easier is to modify and control unwanted behaviours.